I like to start every week with a to-do list. It keeps me on track, focussed and stops me from procrastinating or forgetting things.
When I go shopping, I make a shopping list. I list my goals, exercise plan, the podcasts that I’ll listen to, articles that I’ll read and my jobs around the house. I find that the lists I create are helpful. At the same time, I just use them as a guide and not a step-by-step process. I rarely get through an entire list and most of the time, I find myself digressing from my plan and taking a different path. That’s okay. I’m comfortable doing that. I also understand that some people hate lists, they don’t find them helpful, or they make them feel like they are just being set up for failure. I get that as well.
During a recent planning session with the fantastic team of educators and leaders at one of our Partner Schools, we decided that it would be helpful if I created a list of the key components and aspects that make Restorative Circles work. A little bit like a ‘Circles Check List’. It was a great suggestion and we agreed that it would be really valuable for their team.
Here’s the ironic part…I didn’t write it on my list and as a result, it didn’t get done. I don’t like it when I forget things or when I let people down. So, in an attempt to make things right, I’ve now created a Circles Checklist. It’s not only for the school that I promised but also for any other schools in our community that might find it valuable.
I hope it helps…..
- Think about the space – if it’s not there, find it or create it. Architecture is important.
- Frontload your kids – talk with them about what you are about to do. That is, you are about to run a circle.
- Does it fit? – I’m not talking about the space. Instead, that running a circle fits with your lesson design.
- Circle, Square, Squircle or Oval – It really doesn’t matter what the exact shape is.
- Everyone in – No one sits behind another student. We are all in one shape.
- Be where they are – If you sit on a chair, they sit on a chair. If they sit on the floor, you sit on the floor. Just be at the same level.
- Object Free – Avoid having objects like tables and chairs in the middle of your circle.
- No Special Spots – As the teacher, don’t sit in the same spot every time. Mix it up.
- Less is more – The best circles are short and sharp, that is 2-15 minutes.
- What’s your focus? – Is it to check-in, check out, prepare, respond or is it for learning?
- Engagement is everything – It’s not a group counselling session where everyone gets to debrief.
- How do they engage? Is it share two words with the group or turn and talk to the person next to you? Is it non-verbal signals like thumbs up, an emoji card or the number of fingers (sometimes a safe starting point)?
- Short contributions…by everyone. No opting out.
- Let the magic happen – The more you do it, the easier your day will be, and the better your connection will be with them. Circles build relational trust.
The above points aren’t a lockstep list where you must have everything perfectly lined up and in order. If you get some, great, if you miss some, that’s fine too.
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